left me hanging.

"Don't leave me hanging" is a common phrase that is used by many people; usually as a joke. However, there are ways that this phrase can be literal. To me, leaving someone hanging means to drop them as a friend, just like that. This literal "hanging" happens to the best of us, and I will never understand how people can throw away friendships and relationships like they meant nothing at all. People who said they would always be there, disappear without a trace. Some quickly, others slowly, but no matter how fast they leave, it does not make it hurt any less.

I do not understand how we can talk to someone about everything, trust them with the biggest pieces of our hearts, and how easily this trust can be taken for granted; or how easily they just move on like it is nothing. I do not understand how easy it is for people to act as though they never needed you to be there in the first place. Knowing that they did not even feel as though you deserved some kind of explanation as to why they stopped talking to you is insulting. In my eyes, silence hurts more than words do, because to me, being silent is a good indicator that I did not even think someone was worth the time to waste words on.

However, this frustration goes both ways. I get so frustrated when I am "left hanging," but I know I have done it to people before too; and I wish I hadn't. Friendships, and any other kind of trusting relationships are so valuable. I am confused as to why we, as people, just take these relationships for granted. Whether someone is ten miles away, or a thousand miles away, there is not an excuse for leaving people hanging like that. How is it that we can forget the satisfying feeling of having someone there, a true friend, just like that?

So here is the thing, I am done letting people do that to me; and I am definitely going to try my hardest to not make someone feel the frustration that I have felt with being left hanging. Once someone is taken for granted, the damage has been done. They will be gone and nothing can be done about it except move on.

"Better realize what you have when you have it, or someone else will."