Everyone seems to be in love with the idea of having someone love them, flaws and all. However, lately I have noticed that the norm is not seeing past others' flaws, but rather to point them out and use them as ammunition to make ourselves feel better about our own flaws. Flaws are the only thing that anyone seems to notice. No one wants to hear about the accomplishments of others anymore. People do not take the time to see what makes a person great, we would all rather figure out what makes a person not so great. This thought process is a sickening phase that needs to stop.
"Darkness cannot drive out darkness, only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that."
- Martin Luther King Jr.
I do not think very many people realize how much of a difference saying, "Wow, you did a really good job with that" makes in someone's day. We have been programmed to think that good results will come from criticizing each other and pointing out the flaws, rather than focusing on the positive aspects. This concept is so simple that many people have probably been familiar with it since they were kids. Positive results will not come from negative feedback. We have forgotten the simple fact that everyone has flaws, ourselves included. For some reason, so many people seem to have the thought that if we point out everyone else's mistakes and hardships, our own problems will fly out the door. I do not even know how many times a day I see people being criticized for the smallest flaws, while their large accomplishments go completely unnoticed.
No wonder everyone is so exhausted. No wonder motivation is lost. No wonder nothing in school and work places is ever exemplary. We have lost our eye for the good that people produce every day. The focus on flaws takes away the appearance of so many better things that we should be focusing on.
My day is so much more productive and so much better when I have at least one person who appreciates the work and dedication that people have every day. They say that "we are our own, worst critics." Since that is the case, imagine how hard accepting your own flaws becomes, when many of the messages we get from others are all about flaws. I know my flaws were so much easier for me to overcome when positive words from others were more prominent.
If everyone wants others to love them, flaws and all, how can anyone expect this when the main focus is on flaws to begin with?
